Giving clear instructions to your family solicitor when you are going through emotional turmoil will be a tough challenge.  However, our advice is to allow your family lawyer to help you extract the important information from you.  A good family lawyer will be able to know what questions to ask and give you relevant advice.  Communication with your family law practitioner is key – you can share with your lawyer how you wish to communicate – I personally find e-mails not very helpful as they can be misinterpreted.  I like to speak to my clients and hear their tone.  Zoom meetings are good and the client can always give instructions on how they would like to communicate – what works for them, everyone is different.

If you are going through a really tough time and your mental health does not allow you to sleep because you keep thinking about it and you cannot give instructions, then it is time to invest in some self-help though a qualified psychotherapist.

Whilst you may think “more expense” in the long run this cuts down on costs as you may be able to focus more on the issues your family law practitioner wants you to give instructions on.  Psychotherapy sessions can be tough but they can also be fun and you may discover a whole new lease of life further, it is something that you do for yourself – celebrities do it all the time.

Without doubt, any change in life is challenging and going through a divorce, settling finances and making agreements when the children can see the non-resident parent can put a lot of pressure on the parties.  You will need a good support network of family and/or friends.  This will help your health as well of course as looking after your own wellbeing and ensuring you go for a walk/run or catch a virtual Yoga class.

Things to stay away from during this difficult time is to avoid excessive alcohol drinking and dating apps as statistics seem to show, the grass is seldom greener on the other side and these behaviours have an impact on our mental health (in other words they are a quick fix – but will not help you in the long run).

Being kind to yourself and stop blaming yourself/others are the first steps to help you make the change to your new family circumstances.

Please contact Janette Johnston our Family Law Specialist – A City Law Firm